Anyone currently engaged in planning a wedding is undoubtedly aware of WE TV's constant barrage of wedding programming. As someone who prefers Family Guy and wrestling, I tend to tune out much of this programming. There is however one exception: My Fair Wedding with David Tutera.
I began watching this show much the same way I "watch" Teen Mom or Jersey Shore: I sit in the same room while my attention is given to my phone, or a book, or the wall, or really anything other than the TV. MFW, however, peaked my interest after awhile. For those of you unfamiliar, I'll explain the basic premise upon which every episode relies.
David Tutera is a top-shelf wedding planner. He meets with a couple, discusses their plans, then performs a complete wedding overhaul. For instance, the last episode I saw featured a couple who were so poor (and I don't mean the kind of poor I talk about in regards to myself) that there was never an official proposal. The groom couldn't afford a ring at all, so their wedding came about on more of a mutual agreement than the whimsical proposal girls dream about. As part of his wedding revamp, David supplied the groom with a one karat platinum and diamond ring, as well as a romantically lit garden scene in which the official proposal could take place. The new dress the bride was gifted through the show involved a special necklace piece holding nearly $300,000 in diamonds. Granted, Tutera's work comes with the type of budget only a cable network could provide to an average wedding. His mantra is something about making dreams come true. With my fiance being such a huge fan of the show, I looked into casting for the show. Unfortunately, we don't live in Dallas or New York, and aren't getting married in April. This got me thinking though, why do so many couples need this planner assistance?
I've come to realize that most of these couples don't need help. They're lazy. Some, as with the example couple, do genuinely need a break and they appreciate the help all the more. The rest, however, simply don't put in the genuine effort and thought they are capable of. Their wedding plans become muddled and shotty because they don't commit to their ideas. More often than not I see couples that strive for an "outside the box" wedding while not deviating from the traditional script. The key idea here is commitment.
When people think "wedding," many think of commitment as the foundation if not the entirety of the idea. With so much emphasis on the commitment to each other, why is it then so hard to commit to plans? The cliches are endless ("Be true to yourself," etc.) but the point holds true. In order to make your dream wedding, you don't need David Tutera or WE TV's budget, you need to commit.
We want a fun wedding that highlights our shared interests, not your basic church wedding. In order to make this dream come true, we committed to it. There are still traditional elements, but that is part of the dream. If you need elements of both in your plan, then make them part of your plan. Commit. This is YOUR plan. Own it, make it your dream wedding. Some things won't necessarily fit seamlessly (that's where David Tutera would be useful, cohesiveness) but that's the beauty of it; no one will be able to walk away from our wedding and say it was anything short of ours. My dream is making hers come true, and I am committed to that.
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