Be involved in the planning or forever hold your peace...

Hey everyone-

So the first major decision I made after the proposal was this: I'm going to be involved and help with the entire process. Now, before you click away in disgust, please at least take a look at my rationale.

First of all, do you want to be wearing a pink tuxedo as your bride-to-be strolls down the aisle to Justin Bieber music? NO! The best way to ensure that her day won't make you feel/look/act/be stupid is to make it "Our Day." If you plan nothing, assist with nothing, and just basically do nothing, several problems will arise. 1. She may think, "Is this how it is going to be forever?" 2. She may think, "He doesn't care if we invite all of my salon girls and none of his buddies." 3. She will go insane and possibly call it off or kill you.

Insane? Yes. Yes. Yes. Most of the bridal magazines on the news stands are going to tell her that she's already behind in planning. These same publications are going to give you lists and ideas and more lists and more ideas to plan your dream wedding. Planning a wedding leads to information overload very quickly. That's not even touching on the actual amount of planning, scheduling, and accounting that has to be done. Did I mention the politics of planning a wedding (guests, location, ceremony, family involvement)? That's another few posts all together.

More importantly than the selfish logic, there is also the notion of fairness and partnership. Isn't that what you're signing up for? (If not, see "Introduction, Lesson #1") If you truly love this girl, why stand back and let the metric shit-load of work all fall on her shoulders? Help her. Be there for her. Skip the first half of the football game to go register for gifts (If you're a Green Bay Packer fan like me, the first half doesn't usually matter either way). DVR your favorite show and make a guest list. Put in some legitimate effort and this whole process can go much more smoothly. Don't worry, I don't mean you have to pick doily arrangements on Super Bowl Sunday, but you may want to put her first right from the get-go. It seems to be much easier that way.