A cushion does not a pillow make...

... and this is why we sleep on beds and not couches. I learned this very important lesson only a few nights ago.

One advantage to writing a blog is that anyone and everyone can read it. The down side? Anyone and everyone can read it. This really only becomes a problem when it is used against you in a debate. It is especially bad if that debate is more a fight, and anyone is more your fiance. Hence my problem the other night.

Without bogging you down with details or airing my laundry on the internet, suffice it to say I was wrong (Lesson: Even if you don't think you are wrong, you probably are). I discovered that while attempting to be helpful and give her "one less thing to worry about" during this stressful and exhausting time, I neglected all of the other things she worries about. DON'T DO THIS! It can be easy to forget that between now and then, there are a great many days in between. Days full of bills, dishes, pets, jobs, errands, and all of those other things that don't stop just because you're busy. You have to remember, you're not only planning your wedding day together, you're planning the rest of your lives. While it may not be as fun to sit on the phone for 3 hours arguing with the insurance lady or cleaning the kitchen or (insert task of ire here), all of these things need to get done.

My biggest obstacle is a mixture of natural slacker tendencies mixed with a poor memory (especially when it comes to things like cleaning). This is a volatile combination that can and will land you on the couch. However, as I'm writing this, it should be obvious that the engagement survived (After all, look at what blog you're reading) and I must give credit where credit is due: Thank you, notepad. It seems stupid but writing myself a note, or more of a to-do list, has helped me exponentially. A self-written note is beneficial for two main reasons. You can write the tasks in your own order to make the day not seem as daunting. Also, I don't do that well taking orders. Writing your own note, while the tasks on it may not all be your ideas, makes your list less marching orders, more goals for the day. And now, my list includes the goal of not using cushions as pillows anymore.